Somewhere along the way, I forgot how to chill — and didn’t even notice.
My wife gave me a gift recently that I would never have thought of. Especially for me. It was a voucher to a three-day Lifestyle Retreat specialising in time out and switching off.
To be honest, as Bron was driving me there to be dropped off, I was nervous.
“What will I be doing?”
“Who goes to these things?”
“I feel like I’m being dropped off at boarding school.”
(Actually, Bron thought it was hilarious seeing me a bit unravelled.)
But my real concern was: What will I do with nothing to do?
The place was stunning. The food was next-level healthy and tasty. There was a buffet of relaxing activities and insightful teaching sessions.
And there were interesting people who were all there to…
s l o w d o w n.
“I’ve forgotten how to chill”
On day one, I texted Bron: “Feels weird to just chill. I’ve sorta forgotten how to.”
With the insight and wisdom common to the fairer species she replied with… “Yes I know”
I’ve always aimed for balance in my life. Moderation of everything. Work, rest, and play. And I thought I was doing pretty well.
Until…
It was explained to me that even the thought of emails, organising the kids, ruminating on daily happenings, watching Netflix, looking at stuff on Marketplace, even exercising were ALL stimulating the sympathetic nervous system.
I’d been running on fumes
I realised I’d been running on sympathetic N.S. fumes for years.
No wonder I’d been feeling less energised, and it made me reflect on our profession.
A psychologist I work with once said, “I’ve never seen a group of people who spend so much time in their heads, they’ve forgotten how to feel.”
That hit home.
As vets, we’re constantly solving problems, driving performance, and trying to make a buck at the same time. We live in go-mode and most of us are literally cooking ourselves without noticing.
So here’s my takeaway.
If you’re a practice owner, and you’d value:
- Being a good vet: That means your team is practicing good ethical medicine and you’re popular with clients
- Making your desired income: This means making your ‘yeeha’ income that is reflective of your time, energy and financial input into your practice
- Spending less time in your sympathetic N.S.: This means being able to s l o w d o w n, while you are on your journey, so you actually enjoy it more…
Then it’s worth asking: what would it look like to build a calmer version of success?
One that still grows your practice, but without the constant cortisol.
That’s the work I do with practice owners inside the Accelerate Mastermind Group. We explore how to create more time, more profit, and more freedom, without cooking yourself in the process.
If that sounds like something you’d like to explore, you can read more about it here: Learn more about AMG