Even in the most capable veterinary teams, not every working relationship feels easy, and there’s usually a reason for that.
We’ve all been there. You’re working with someone who’s perfectly competent – maybe even kind and considerate – and yet, something doesn’t click. You find yourself irritated, second-guessing, or simply drained after every interaction. You’re not sure why. You’re not even sure it’s their fault.
In veterinary practice, these moments often show up in the middle of a busy consult block, during a handover between vets and nurses, or when decisions need to be made quickly under pressure. When communication matters most, even small differences in how we think and respond can start to feel amplified.
What’s going on?
It’s Not You, It’s Social Style
One of the most overlooked dynamics in our working relationships is the impact of social styles. The way we perceive others – and the way we’re perceived – is shaped by a complex mix of personality, environment, cognitive wiring, and life experience. And while diversity in social styles makes for stronger, more innovative veterinary teams, it can also make collaboration harder than it needs to be.
Social styles provide a simple yet powerful framework to understand these differences. And, more importantly, to work more effectively with people who don’t naturally “click” with us.
The Two Axes That Shape Us All
At the heart of the social styles framework are two behavioural preferences:
- Responsiveness: Are you more focused on tasks or people?
- Assertiveness: Do you tend to tell others what’s on your mind, or do you prefer to ask questions and listen?
When we map these two preferences, we get four distinct social styles – each with their own strengths, stressors, and needs:
1. Drivers: Task-focused and assertive
Drivers are action-oriented, direct, and results driven. They hate unnecessary “fluff” and value efficiency. Their primary need is control.
2. Amiables: People-focused and cooperative
Amiables are empathetic, inclusive, and relationship driven. They avoid conflict and work hard to keep harmony. Their primary need is security.
3. Analytics: Task-focused and thoughtful
Analytics are logical and methodical. They want all the facts before making decisions and value accuracy over speed. Their primary need is correctness.
4. Expressives: People-focused and assertive
Expressives are enthusiastic, creative, and emotionally open. They thrive on recognition, ideas, and connection. Their primary need is acknowledgement.
Seeing Ourselves Through Others’ Eyes
Understanding your own social style is just the beginning. The real value comes from understanding how your default style projects onto others and how it shapes your perceptions.
- A Driver might see an Amiable as indecisive or soft.
- An Analytic might experience an Expressive as chaotic or loud.
- An Expressive might feel shut out by an Analytic’s need for data.
- And an Amiable might feel steamrolled by a Driver’s directness.
The result is: Misunderstanding. Tension. Conflict. And a whole lot of wasted energy.
Authenticity, With Skill
We don’t need to change who we are. But we do need to develop the skill to adapt how we engage – especially in high-stakes, high-pressure team environments like veterinary practice.
We call this being “authentic, with skill.” It’s about understanding your default social style, and learning when and how to flex it in service of stronger, more effective relationships.
- If you’re an Analytic, can you soften your precision to connect more with people who don’t need as much detail?
- If you’re a Driver, can you offer recognition to an Expressive or Amiable – even if it doesn’t come naturally?
- If you’re an Amiable, can you step up and assert yourself more clearly with a strong-willed Driver?
- If you’re an Expressive, can you ground your ideas in structure when working with someone more methodical?
Armed with a deeper understanding of social styles, we can start applying these insights not just within our immediate teams, but also with clients and in our personal lives.
It’s not about labelling or stereotyping. It’s about curiosity, flexibility, and empathy.
What can we control?
We can’t control who we work with. But we can choose how we work with them.
Understanding social styles gives us a roadmap to do just that. It invites us to stop taking things personally, to stop assuming others think like we do, and to start building relationships that are less reactive and more intentional.
It’s not always easy. But it is always worth it. Because when we get this right, we create teams that not only work –but work well.